I understand, from the get-go, that I'm probably going to rub some people the wrong way. And, I'm sorry for that. I've actually been shunned by quite a few people for bringing this topic up because they think it's absolutely absurd. However, just because it may be beyond their comprehension doesn't mean it doesn't occur.
Anyways...
I can't speak for everyone, but I can speak for myself.
"A male lesbian is a physiologically heteosexual male who wishes he'd been born a girl. He feels alienated by the social standards of gender roles. He may be a crossdresser or consider himself transgendered, but he is probably not transsexual. His ideal would be to be able to be his feminine self in a relationship with a biological female. If he is open about this, he may be ridiculed by both the gay and straight communities."
The above is a typical explanation of the Male-Lesbian Concept. People often use Prince as an example.
I'm going to use my own self as an example.
I think that paragraph (according to my personal view of myself) is pretty accurate. I feel as though I SHOULD have been born a female and, though I would have, I would have been gay. However, I have no ambition to ever go through a sex change to actually switch to the female sex.
My basis for thinking this way:
Obviously, I'm a Tegan and Sara fan. I have been for years. (The regulars here know that - since dot net.) I feel a large connection with bands such as T and S, Ani Difranco, Bikini Kill, Cyndi Lauper, Joan Jett, Melissa Etheridge... even Northern State (now that I've seen them live.) I have the stereotypical personality of a gay girl - from the way I act, dress, my preferences.. etc.
I know what you're saying. Gay girls dress like guys, right? No, there's actually a difference. Gay girls may dress masculine, but there's a stereotypical difference. And, while I hate using stereotypes... it's just too accurate to be denied - especially in my case.
Still, though, that's just dressing. Things like that can be changed and easily altered, right?
What I can't change is something that's been engrained in me since birth. I'm ONLY attracted to masculine/androgenous girls. When all of my buddies were "wacking it" (for lack of a better term) to Pamela Anderson, I had a HUGE crush on Lori Petty... and had no attraction what-so-ever to Pamela Anderson.
The way it fell, every single female celebrity I got the hots for turned out to be gay. Every girl I've dated has said that "it was like dating a lesbian."
I could go on and on and on, but I think you get the point. (And, for the record, I'm absolutely repulsed by guys. So, no, I'm not gay.)
Now, I know there's probably some over-analysis here and, honestly, I don't give to shits about trying to label myself. I'm Jon. I don't need some kind of sexual orientation label. HOWEVER, this has plagued me since birth. I've found it tremendously difficult in explaining my sexual/mate preferences to people. It's not easy being a guy who's pretty much only attracted to butchy and androgenous girls. I've had a hard time finding girlfriends because every girl I fall for turns out to be gay.
And, yes, I've tried straight girls. It doesn't work. It's like laying in bed next to a guy and there's just no consistency between our personalities. It just always turns out really really horrible.
So, really, I'd just like your opinions. I know the whole Male-Lesbian Concept tends to get shunned. And, I believe it deserves to in MANY cases. Most times, it is just some asshole guy trying to be cute because he likes it when two "hot girls" kiss. That's just absurd. I get annoyed at that as well. All I'm saying is, "What about me? I'm NOT into 'lipstick lesbians'. I'm not even into lesbians, the girls I like just TEND to be lesbians because I'm attracted to androgeny." The gay thing isn't WHY I'm attracted.
Again, I'm sorry if I offended anyone. I figured this would be a cool place where I could put this out there and see other's opinions - especially since most people here tend to be quite confident in their sexuality.
Like I've said, I'm not looking for a label... but it's kinda hard when everyone thinks I'm gay because I have no interest in the type of girls I SHOULD be interested in.
Or am I just insane?
Heh.
Anyways...
I can't speak for everyone, but I can speak for myself.
"A male lesbian is a physiologically heteosexual male who wishes he'd been born a girl. He feels alienated by the social standards of gender roles. He may be a crossdresser or consider himself transgendered, but he is probably not transsexual. His ideal would be to be able to be his feminine self in a relationship with a biological female. If he is open about this, he may be ridiculed by both the gay and straight communities."
The above is a typical explanation of the Male-Lesbian Concept. People often use Prince as an example.
I'm going to use my own self as an example.
I think that paragraph (according to my personal view of myself) is pretty accurate. I feel as though I SHOULD have been born a female and, though I would have, I would have been gay. However, I have no ambition to ever go through a sex change to actually switch to the female sex.
My basis for thinking this way:
Obviously, I'm a Tegan and Sara fan. I have been for years. (The regulars here know that - since dot net.) I feel a large connection with bands such as T and S, Ani Difranco, Bikini Kill, Cyndi Lauper, Joan Jett, Melissa Etheridge... even Northern State (now that I've seen them live.) I have the stereotypical personality of a gay girl - from the way I act, dress, my preferences.. etc.
I know what you're saying. Gay girls dress like guys, right? No, there's actually a difference. Gay girls may dress masculine, but there's a stereotypical difference. And, while I hate using stereotypes... it's just too accurate to be denied - especially in my case.
Still, though, that's just dressing. Things like that can be changed and easily altered, right?
What I can't change is something that's been engrained in me since birth. I'm ONLY attracted to masculine/androgenous girls. When all of my buddies were "wacking it" (for lack of a better term) to Pamela Anderson, I had a HUGE crush on Lori Petty... and had no attraction what-so-ever to Pamela Anderson.
The way it fell, every single female celebrity I got the hots for turned out to be gay. Every girl I've dated has said that "it was like dating a lesbian."
I could go on and on and on, but I think you get the point. (And, for the record, I'm absolutely repulsed by guys. So, no, I'm not gay.)
Now, I know there's probably some over-analysis here and, honestly, I don't give to shits about trying to label myself. I'm Jon. I don't need some kind of sexual orientation label. HOWEVER, this has plagued me since birth. I've found it tremendously difficult in explaining my sexual/mate preferences to people. It's not easy being a guy who's pretty much only attracted to butchy and androgenous girls. I've had a hard time finding girlfriends because every girl I fall for turns out to be gay.
And, yes, I've tried straight girls. It doesn't work. It's like laying in bed next to a guy and there's just no consistency between our personalities. It just always turns out really really horrible.
So, really, I'd just like your opinions. I know the whole Male-Lesbian Concept tends to get shunned. And, I believe it deserves to in MANY cases. Most times, it is just some asshole guy trying to be cute because he likes it when two "hot girls" kiss. That's just absurd. I get annoyed at that as well. All I'm saying is, "What about me? I'm NOT into 'lipstick lesbians'. I'm not even into lesbians, the girls I like just TEND to be lesbians because I'm attracted to androgeny." The gay thing isn't WHY I'm attracted.
Again, I'm sorry if I offended anyone. I figured this would be a cool place where I could put this out there and see other's opinions - especially since most people here tend to be quite confident in their sexuality.
Like I've said, I'm not looking for a label... but it's kinda hard when everyone thinks I'm gay because I have no interest in the type of girls I SHOULD be interested in.
Or am I just insane?
Heh.
"Can you sing?"
"Yes, really badly and out of tune."
"Yes, really badly and out of tune."
